The Irresistible Woman | Christina Wiley - Empowering Relationship Coach for Women

When is it time to give yourself a break? When I was a new police officer in training I made a terrible mistake. My FTO (Field Training Officer) and I took a women into custody because she was a danger to herself and others (5150).

It was my job to search her and remove anything that might be dangerous to her. So I searched her, cuffed her and put her in the back of our patrol car.

We drove to the psychiatric facility and took her inside. My FTO and I were standing at the counter processing her paperwork when, to my horror, she removed an item from her pocket and waved it in my FTO's face. It was... 

something that should not have been in her pocket. I missed a lighter in her pocket when I searched her. A lighter is flammable and potentially dangerous. Needless to say my FTO was not happy.

Neither was I because I made a huge mistake that could have caused him harm. I was incredibly thankful that the woman didn't flick the lighter on as she waved it in my FTO's face. 

When my FTO and I were outside of the facility he laid into me and rightfully so. He could have been hurt because I missed the lighter. We got in the patrol car and I felt absolutely awful as he continued to tell me how bad it was.

I'm not really a cryer, but I felt so bad on my own that his words really cut into me. I struggled to fight back the tears. A police officer isn't supposed to cry, right?

I continued to beat myself up for my mistake after I was off duty and into the next day. When we began our shift the next day my FTO apologized to me. He realized that he had gone on too long about it. In reality he couldn't be harder on me than I was on myself.

I certainly learned from my mistake and never made it again.  He may have let it go, but I didn't.

Have you ever made a mistake that you continually beat yourself up about? Have you replayed the scene over and over in your mind and it just made you relive the pain of the situation?

An Irresistible Woman™ learns from her mistakes, lets go and forgives herself. You can't change the decisions or situations of your past, but you can certainly learn from them. When we learn from them our mistakes make us stronger.

Is there something in your past that you currently beat yourself up about? There's nothing you can do about it now. It's time to let go, give yourself a break and forgive yourself.

An Irresistible Woman™ forgives others and she certainly forgives herself.

Christina Wiley is an Irresistible Woman™ Coach, Certified Human Behavior Consultant and Leadership Training Specialist. Christina empowers every woman to become an Irresistible Woman™ in their personal relationships with others and with themselves. Visit http://www.TheIrresistibleWoman.com for more tips on how to become an Irresistible Woman™ and register to claim your free copy of 20 tips to help you become the Irresistible Woman™ you were meant to be.

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